Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Farewell...

Susan


She's Gone.

My aunt wrote her obituary.

Susan M. Kelly,
57, formerly Susan Hoffecker and a former resident of  Shavertown,
Dallas and Harvey's Lake, Pa., passed away on Monday, February 9,2009 in West
Palm Beach, Fl. Susan resided in the "Valley" until 1991 when she moved to
Delray Beach, Fl.

Susan graduated from Dallas Senior High School in
1969 and attended Luzerne County Community College. She married Bill Kelly in
1973 and they were married for 20 some years.She had 2 beautiful childen.
Susan's purpose in life was to be a teacher. Not a teacher in the book sense
but a teacher of life's consequences. Susan was an active alcoholic till the
day she died from the disease. She struggled in life not only with the alcohol
demons but with herself. She tried in her own way to let the demons go
but was unable to. She attended AA meetings, she went thru rehabilitation but
the disease of denial and alcohol had a strong hold on her. It is a shame to
not understand the disease and the despair that some continually go thru. It
is a curse.

Susan was a beautiful woman who had a heart of gold and
always a friendly smile. If you were fortunate to meet her in her journey
you would not know the pain that she carried inside her. If you were one of
the few who really knew her, you would feel her pain. She was fun, full of
laughter and antics. She knew how to be a friend to you,even with everything
that she was going thru in her life's struggles. Please remember her fondly as
she would do the same for you because her heart was huge and never had a
disparaging word to speak of anyone. She will be missed dearly. Her father,
Charles Hoffecker preceded her in death in 1990.

Susan is survived by
her children, daughter Amber Kelly Ulmer and husband Josh and her
first unborn grandchild, Josephine, her son Keegan Kelly, and her ex-husband
Bill Kelly all of Nashville, Tn. She is also survived by her mother, Mary
Hoffecker, Delray Beach, Fl., brother Chip Hoffecker, Pompano Beach, Fl and
sister Lori Hoffecker White, Delray Beach, Fl along with 2 nephews, Michael
and Jarrod White and 2 nieces Nicole and Eva Hoffecker,also many Aunts,Uncles
and cousins.

Please pray for her soul.Donations can be made in her honour
to Hospice of Palm Beach County.

A memorial service will be held at a
later date and interment will be at Pine Grove Cemetary in Tobyhanna, Pa.



Also, I am on bedrest. I have been on bedrest for the past week and will be on it for about another 1.5 weeks we think. I have another appt next Thursday.
Just til I get to 35 weeks we hope. I was showing signs of pre-labor so it's precautionary so lil Josephine stays put until at least 35 weeks.
She could decide to stay til 40 weeks, who knows. I was already making some labor changes so we are just taking it easy to make sure she stays put for a few more weeks at least.
That is all for my update.
A pretty heavy one.
I'll be back...later.

78 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for your loss and that she didn't get to meet Josephine.
    But she's away home now and her pain is over. I know she is with God.

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  2. I'm so sorry, Amber. Thinking of you! Hoping the bed rest goes well and does the trick! More hugs!

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  3. Big hugs to you. Keeping you in my prayers, and wishing you lots of rest. Stay healthy, sweetie!

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  4. So sorry to hear about your mom. I'll be praying for you guys and that Josie stays put until the right time.

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  5. big hugs Amber. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this on top of everything else that is going on. You are in our prayers.

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  6. i'm so sorry for you loss, amber. many prayers and positive thoughts your way as you go through this and the bedrest. wishing you well.

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  7. I'm sorry, Amber. What a loss to deal with so close to your birth. Lots of thoughts and hugs headed your way...

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  8. Hillary (hilly0013 @ SIS)11:47 AM

    Amber....I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and Josh, and for your brother.
    If you need anything, let me know.
    Hillary

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  9. Hang in there miss - I'm sure you're dealing with a wide range of emotions right now - God's perfect timing for everything as you know - relax.

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  10. You are in my prayers!

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  11. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what a difficult time you are having. I just lost my dad in September and I am still having a hard time. If you need to talk, I'm here....

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  12. Hi Amber,
    I read your blog a lot, as you are due a couple weeks before me...but I don't know that I've ever actually commented. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. And also the bedrest. I might have to go on bedrest. I'm not looking forward to it. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers this week.
    em

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  13. I do not know nor imagine what emotions you are feeling, but wanted to share a ((((((HUG)))))) and send a prayer.
    Hope you and Josie get lots of rest!

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  14. deanna thompson1:03 PM

    hey sweet girl...
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. but I know you are strong and have a wonderful support system and will carry on through this. you are beautiful and have been blessed. I'm so sorry you have to feel this pain. I'm here if you need to talk. or cry. or just breath on the other end of the line. it's ok. <3 take care of you and that sweet baby girl.

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  15. I feel like we are pregnancy kindred spirits, Amber. I've been following your Josie updates--as I am just 1 week behind you! First we both had concerns of placental previa, and now the pre-term labor scare! Can you believe that? Bless your heart. Take care of yourself and keep that sweet girl tucked inside a little longer. I am so sorry to hear about everything weighing on your heart right now. Stay strong, girl!

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  16. amber, i am thinking of you :)
    leslie

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  17. Amber, I am praying for you sweetie.

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  18. So sorry to hear about your loss. We are thinking about you.

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  19. You are in my prayers. xoxo

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  20. Oh Amber.... :(....
    this makes me oh so sad and brings me tears....
    :(.....
    my prayers are with you and the rest of your family as well...
    oh sweetie.....
    sending my love, and hoping you know you are in my thoughts and prayers,
    your cous' v*

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  21. Cristina4:48 PM

    Am praying for you and Josh love ya and miss you lots!!

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  22. My heart is with you right now in this moment...I would hug you if I could!
    I love you so much...you know how much.
    take your time, she knew you loved her!
    Love, me

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  23. Love you sweetness....if you ever need to talk, I've been there. I'll be thinking of you and Josh and Josie.

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  24. Love you sweetie and will light a candle for her and for you.
    corinnexxx

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  25. sorry on your loss, and hope Josie decides to stay in there the whole pregnancy

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  26. Laura9:06 PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss...

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  27. Oh Amber I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say :-(
    {{HUGS}}going to you all. You are in my thoughts and prayers !

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  28. *hugs* for my overseas bestie.
    loving you xxx

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  29. I read your blog often, but don't comment often. I am sorry for your loss and I pray you find peace.
    I'm sorry to hear you are on bed rest, but knowing that it's for the health of Josie will help you through the long days...

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  30. Erin H.1:06 AM

    Awww Amber, I am sooo sorry to hear about your mother. I know you have had difficulty dealing with her choices, etc. from reading your blog. Timing is crazy and you certainly didn't need this additional stress at this time. My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope you have a safe, healthy delivery. Take care!
    (((HUGS)))

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  31. Amber-
    So very sorry to hear about your mother. Know that she is in a better place, and no longer has to carry the pain of her disease around.
    It is such a small world, but I leave so very close to Pine Grove.
    Wishing you the best of luck while you are on bed rest. Remember it is always better to be safe than sorry.

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  32. oh Amber my heart goes out to you and your family! I am mainly a lurker, but I just had to come out of lurkdom and extend my sincere condolences!

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  33. Susie4:50 AM

    I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers. Remember that you are cared for by people you don't even know.

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  34. amber/josh and family our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of need

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  35. amber, i'm so very sorry for your loss. even though our stories are different and even though you didn't have a close relationship with your mother (i didn't either), at the end of the day, she's still your mom and it's still painful. that said, i completely understand the loss you are feeling of losing your mom at such a young age. it's more difficult to accept all the things she'll miss over the simple fact that she's gone. my mom passed in july 2007, at age 50, very suddenly. if you ever need to talk it out, please email me. give yourself plenty of time to process it all. be gentle to yourself as the waves of grieve come over you. i'm so thankful that you have a wonderful support system to help you through this.
    praying baby stays put during this time of stress.
    ((((((HUGE HUGS))))

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  36. Take care of yourself and little Josie. Not much longer now.
    I am sorry to hear about your Aunt passing. My Aunt passed on Jan 20th from cancer. Many sympathies and prayers for you and your family.

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  37. my heart is with you! If you need to talk, I am just a phone call away.
    Prayers & Love.
    R

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  38. oh, sweetheart. i'm so sorry. her struggles are finally over. hold josh tight and take care of you and josie. all my love, amber. xoxo.

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  39. amber, i'm so sorry. our thoughts are with you and your family.

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  40. D&#39;Nese8:48 AM

    Wiping away the tears!! Amber, I literally have chills reading this post. I'm so very sorry. I know you will hear that one too many times. I wish I had the right words to make this better. I'm here girlie!!
    Get lots of rest. You, Josh and Josie are in my daily prayers.
    Much Love-
    D'Nese

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  41. hugs to you! xoxoxox

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  42. lizz selders9:36 AM

    so sorry for you loss and praying for you and josie.

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  43. BIG hug for you dear.

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  44. BIG hug for you dear.

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  45. Sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you while you are on bedrest. I was in the same boat with my son and it was hard. I hope little Josie stays put.

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  46. Amber I am so so sorry that you are going through this right now. :(
    I can't imagine losing my mother...I know that you loved her a lot and she knew it too.
    Take care of yourself and sweet Josie!
    I'll keep you in my prayers.
    Charin

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  47. Dear Amber and Josh (and lil Josephine),
    So sorry to read about your mum.
    I will be praying for you guys.
    I was on bed rest last week (30 weeeks our 4th child) and thought i might have been in pre-term labour. I had our first at 35 weeks but the boys came later. Rest is good. Rest is very good.
    Sending love your way and may the peace of Jesus rest over you :)
    Love Lus x

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  48. I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))

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  49. Amanda Westerbeck3:43 AM

    my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  50. oh amber.
    im sooo very sorry.
    im really @ a loss for words other than that.
    take care of yourself and that sweet baby girl too.
    thinking of your entire family.
    jenniferp.
    xoxox.

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  51. oh amber.
    im sooo very sorry.
    im really @ a loss for words other than that.
    take care of yourself and that sweet baby girl too.
    thinking of your entire family.
    jenniferp.
    xoxox.

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  52. Kendall P.7:46 AM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. Keep resting and stay well!

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  53. Amber, you and Josh and little baby Josie are in my prayers. I'm sorry for you loss and the bedrest you have to be on. Your mom is free now, she can be with God, and be happy. Let me know if you need anything at all.
    --Christina

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  54. Kathy T3:35 PM

    Amber you just need a big hug -((Hug)) Your aunt sounds like a lovely person that lived her life to the fullest.

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  55. tammygraves10:26 AM

    So sorry for your loss...you're in my thoughts and prayers.....

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  56. Amber, I am so sorry to hear about your Mother. I will be praying for you and your family. Hope to see you soon at Annie's. Love you.
    Tracie

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  57. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  58. i am so sorry about your mother, i hope you and your family are okay. i hope you are doing well on bedrest!

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  59. Amber Im so so sorry to hear of your loss.
    At least her battle is over and she is in a better place now.
    "To live in the hearts of others is not to die."
    I hope you manage to feel better soon x x x

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  60. Steph Baxter10:07 PM

    I'm so sorry Amber. Praying for you right now.

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  61. Julia in MI5:33 AM

    I'll be praying for you.

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  62. Christina Padilla7:22 AM

    So sorry for your loss.
    you and your little Josie are in my prayers.
    Hold tight sweetie!
    xoxo
    cp

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  63. Thinking of you all during this hard time. I hope you are taking care of yourself and Josie. XoXo Amy

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  64. Thinking of you all during this hard time. I hope you are taking care of yourself and Josie. XoXo Amy

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  65. Hugs to you and your entire family...
    xoxo

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  66. Louis1:39 AM

    My deepest sympathy on your recent loss. Best of wishes with Josie. Spoke to your Aunt last evening, Thank you very much for forwarding my number to her.

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  67. Amber I am so sorry to read that you are going through this painful event so close to such a wonderfully happy time in your life. Get lots of rest, cry when you need to, and we'll be praying for you. (((HUGS)))

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  68. Jessica4:48 PM

    Amber,
    I've never commented before, but I've been reading for awhile. I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother is beautiful. She is absolutely radiating in this photo. I'll be praying for you in the days to come.
    Jessica
    PS I'm from Pompano Beach :) It's so funny to see my little city written on here!

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  69. Les W3:41 PM

    I worked with Susan and I post this here. May you find rejoice that she is now with Her Lord.
    I'm Free
    Don't grieve for me for now I'm free
    I'm following the path God laid for me.
    I took His Hand when I heard Him call.
    I turned my back and left it all.
    I could not stay another day to receive your love, to hear you pray. Tasks left undone must stay that way! for I found peace at the close of the day.
    If my parting has left a void then fill it with remembered joy; a friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss, and all the things I know you'll miss.
    Be not burdened in time of sorrow.
    Perhaps my time seems all to brief.
    Don't spend your life on undue grief.
    My life with Christ is now complete. As I see His face and sit at His feet.
    Lift up your heart and share with me.
    God wanted me now
    He Set Me Free!

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  70. Hey Ambie, I'm so sorry for your lost. But you know the old say'n when one passes, a new life is brought into the world. So great Blessins for lil' Josie:) Girl, I'll be mailing your package soon (and lil' sumtin special for Josie later lol) You take care of yourself & lmk if ya need anything.

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  71. Hey Ambie, I'm so sorry for your lost. But you know the old say'n when one passes, a new life is brought into the world. So great Blessins for lil' Josie:) Girl, I'll be mailing your package soon (and lil' sumtin special for Josie later lol) You take care of yourself & lmk if ya need anything.

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  72. Hey Ambie, I'm so sorry for your lost. But you know the old say'n when one passes, a new life is brought into the world. So great Blessins for lil' Josie:) Girl, I'll be mailing your package soon (and lil' sumtin special for Josie later lol) You take care of yourself & lmk if ya need anything.

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  73. so sorry for your loss...my prayers are with your family.
    ~krista

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  74. My thoughts and prayers are with you

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  75. My thoughts and prayers are with you

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  76. danielle thompson3:04 AM

    i'm so incredibly sorry, amber. Thinking of you.

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  77. Whitney Shelly10:22 AM

    Hey Amber, Im sorry for your loss. You seem to be going through so much, I am praying for you. I also have my family and friends praying for you here in Florida.

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  78. Amber I am so sorry sweetie! Be strong. I know you will be!! I will be thinking and praying for you!!!

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